Sometimes,
divorces are a long time coming. In situations where the parties knew their marriage
would dissolve eventually and were just waiting for the right moment to
legalize their divorce, one or both spouses may be ready to start moving
on. But how soon after a divorce should you start dating? In today's
blog, we go over the specifics.
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Wait Until the Court Finalizes Your Divorce
First, let's get some of the legalities out of the way. No matter what,
you'll want to wait until the court finalizes your divorce and hands
down a divorce decree to start dating.
In most states, engaging in intercourse while married is considered adultery,
even if you're currently separated from your spouse or are in the
process of getting a divorce.
Obviously, dating and intercourse aren't synonymous. However, if a
private investigator shows the court pictures of you and another individual
cohabitating or engaging in other romantic behaviors, it could be enough
for the court to determine that adultery is taking place. Even if you
can successfully contest those allegations, all you've effectively
done is add a significant amount of stress to your divorce case.
In general, waiting until your divorce is finalized is the best option
if you're sure you want to start dating immediately after your divorce.
Think About Whether Quickly Moving on Is the Best Idea
Adjusting to life post-divorce can be difficult. While many formerly married
people find the idea of having another person to share the house with
appealing, especially since they're probably used to cohabitating,
it's important to try and take some time to ensure you're healthy
on your own before you start moving on with someone else.
Consider attending post-divorce counseling before you begin dating again.
An experienced counselor can help you get your feet underneath you and
work with you to ensure your mental health is in a good place before you
start dating again.
Once It's Time to Move on, Move on
Of course, there's something to be said for romantic connections. If
you're happy with who you are or aren't struggling to adjust to
life post-divorce, maybe moving on really is the best thing for you. If
you're positive that re-entering the dating world is the best thing
for your health and well-being, don't hesitate to do so - just make
sure that when you do, you know what kind of new relationships you're
looking for, and you feel ready to pursue those opportunities.
At Arnold Law Group, APC, we'll help you understand the best path forward
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