What Are the Most Common Causes of Divorce?
Posted on Oct 31, 2022 3:35pm PDT
Recently, celebrity couple Tom Brady and Gisele Bundchen announced that
they had divorced.
According to NPR, the celebrity exes announced their split on social media,
and said that their divorce was amicable.
Several in the media and many of the former couple’s fans have been
speculating about what led to the pair’s seemingly perfect relationship
coming to a surprising end. Obviously, no relationship is perfect, but
from the outside, Tom Brady and Gisele Bundchen’s marriage looked
about as solid as marriages can be.
Still, every couple encounters problems, and, in some cases, those problems
are too tough to overcome. Some say that it was Brady’s unretirement
and insistence on continuing his NFL career that was the last straw for Bundchen.
We may never know the full truth of the situation. This is often the case
for celebrity couples like Brady and Bundchen, but also for people like
us. When our marriages end in
divorce, those on the outside are often blindsided and never truly know what led
to our split.
Why Do Couples Get Divorced?
Just as every marriage is unique, every divorce is unique. Still, there
are a few common reasons that most marriages end. The reasons often stem
from everyday problems that don’t get addressed and eventually become
too much for one or both spouses to handle.
The following are a few of the most common everyday problems that lead
to couples getting divorced:
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Cheating – Having the person you care about most betray you in this way is
hard to forgive. Many marriages can’t recover after one or both
spouses commit adultery.
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Lack of commitment – In some cases, spouses lose their enthusiasm for the marriage.
They become less motivated to work on the relationship and just let it
begin to wither and die. Sometimes, it’s not that they don’t
love their partner, but that they just don’t feel romantic love
for them anymore. They lose their attraction for them and only see them
as a friend or roommate. It’s hard to remain committed to a marriage
if that’s how you view your spouse.
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Getting married too young – Many couples get married in their mid-twenties or younger. That
can be a tough age to settle down. In many cases, you’ve still got
growing up to do and haven’t established the kind of adult you’re
going to be for the long haul. That means that you and your spouse may
change your personalities, viewpoints on key issues, and lifestyles dramatically
within a couple of years of tying the knot. This could mean that while
you might have thought you were compatible when you got married, it turns
out you’re not.
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Constant arguing – Every couple argues. It can be a healthy part of any relationship.
Arguments can force spouses to confront issues that have been allowed
to linger. However, constant arguing can add stress to a marriage, and
may be a sign that a couple isn’t confronting or solving any of
their issues. It could also be a sign that the couple is growing apart
and no longer on the same page with each other. Ultimately, arguments
shouldn’t be a constant in your marriage. Instead, you should hopefully
be able to resolve your issues by discussing them calmly and rationally.
Other issues that can undermine a marriage and lead to divorce include
financial problems, drug or alcohol abuse, and domestic violence.
For more information about divorce in California, or to discuss your situation with our experienced divorce lawyers in Fresno, call Arnold Law Group, APC
at (559) 900-1263 or get in touch with us online today for a confidential
consultation.