Recently, celebrity couple Tom Brady and Gisele Bundchen announced that they had divorced. According to NPR, the celebrity exes announced their split on social media, and said that their divorce was amicable.
Several in the media and many of the former couple’s fans have been speculating about what led to the pair’s seemingly perfect relationship coming to a surprising end. Obviously, no relationship is perfect, but from the outside, Tom Brady and Gisele Bundchen’s marriage looked about as solid as marriages can be.
Still, every couple encounters problems, and, in some cases, those problems are too tough to overcome. Some say that it was Brady’s unretirement and insistence on continuing his NFL career that was the last straw for Bundchen.
We may never know the full truth of the situation. This is often the case for celebrity couples like Brady and Bundchen, but also for people like us. When our marriages end in divorce, those on the outside are often blindsided and never truly know what led to our split.
Why Do Couples Get Divorced?
Just as every marriage is unique, every divorce is unique. Still, there are a few common reasons that most marriages end. The reasons often stem from everyday problems that don’t get addressed and eventually become too much for one or both spouses to handle. The following are a few of the most common everyday problems that lead to couples getting divorced:
- Cheating – Having the person you care about most betray you in this way is hard to forgive. Many marriages can’t recover after one or both spouses commit adultery.
- Lack of commitment – In some cases, spouses lose their enthusiasm for the marriage. They become less motivated to work on the relationship and just let it begin to wither and die. Sometimes, it’s not that they don’t love their partner, but that they just don’t feel romantic love for them anymore. They lose their attraction for them and only see them as a friend or roommate. It’s hard to remain committed to a marriage if that’s how you view your spouse.
- Getting married too young – Many couples get married in their mid-twenties or younger. That can be a tough age to settle down. In many cases, you’ve still got growing up to do and haven’t established the kind of adult you’re going to be for the long haul. That means that you and your spouse may change your personalities, viewpoints on key issues, and lifestyles dramatically within a couple of years of tying the knot. This could mean that while you might have thought you were compatible when you got married, it turns out you’re not.
- Constant arguing – Every couple argues. It can be a healthy part of any relationship. Arguments can force spouses to confront issues that have been allowed to linger. However, constant arguing can add stress to a marriage, and may be a sign that a couple isn’t confronting or solving any of their issues. It could also be a sign that the couple is growing apart and no longer on the same page with each other. Ultimately, arguments shouldn’t be a constant in your marriage. Instead, you should hopefully be able to resolve your issues by discussing them calmly and rationally.
Other issues that can undermine a marriage and lead to divorce include financial problems, drug or alcohol abuse, and domestic violence.
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